How to Repair a Relationship | What Every Man Wants (but almost no Woman Gives)

I love to watch lovers relating to one another.  Love relationships are played out in movie themes, plays, music and current events on the news. So much so, that many of us have distorted views of what a romantic relationship is and unrealistic expectations of how to love one another.

As we watch with curiosity and amazement—the tendency is to judge our own personal relationships from these highly visible encounters.  There is no way to know why these relationships didn’t work. Where is the help on how to repair a relationship?

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On more than one occasion I have found myself commenting about someone’s relationship:

  • “I don’t know why Janice and Bobby ever got married, they are total opposites. He’s outgoing and she’s dull and lifeless.
  • On the other hand, I went to Tanya and John’s wedding– they were a beautiful couple and seemed so in love.  Didn’t last 2 years.
  • But I must say the real shocker wasNancy and Tom—married 35 years.  Now, if you stay together that long—why would you be getting a divorce?

I should be shocked at some of these lost relationships. But again, I wonder how to repair a relationship—is there a tool to help couples create the relationship they desire?

As President of www.OneStopLegalSolution.com , a legal document preparation company, I know the stories of countless women seeking a divorce. We prepare divorce documents and I hear the stories of infidelity, loneliness and unhappiness. Many of these women express a desire to live passionately and vibrantly—right now, with the right person.

Out of all the divorces we’ve prepared, I heard similar statements:

  • I’d rather be married
  • I still love him but I don’t know how to make it work
  • I wish I knew how to get his attention—I want to feel loved.

If you desire to experience passionate and vibrant love relations with your current spouse, boyfriend–or you want to prepare for a new relationship—I found a tool that can help you enhance or create change in your relationships. I think you’ll discover how to repair a relationship and get the love you desire.

If your man is not communicating, ignoring you or just doesn’t seem to care—you need to take action—NOW!

Click Here to learn more:  What EVERY man wants (but almost NO woman gives)…

Then come back and join the conversation.  What did you do to get your man’s attention and renewed love interest?

 

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2012 Food for Thought: On Rising Up~

 

Can you be real if you can’t keep it real with yourself? Can you truly love another until you understand what love is? How many times have you experienced or been the victim of someone telling you lies? How did you feel afterwards? No matter what you can heal from anything if you choose to.

In this world someone has to stand up and be an example of just what love is. If its not you then who will do it. Why should you do it? Because we need you so the rest of the planet will heal. As you and i look around there is danger, hate, ignorance, disrespect, toxins everywhere. But amiss all that, we still live. Its amazing that we still grow and love one another even more by the day. There is nothing to be afraid of in the world. What you attract are your own fears. You can be the best yet this very year if you want to you most certainly can and will do it this very lifetime too. I know someone has hurt you before, by telling you lies, ignoring you and feeding you bullish..but there’s always a bright side to life. Feel the natural magic inside you. You are that indescribable beauty that you see in all the great people that have ever walked the earth. Go forth today and shine brighter than  you ever thought you could. Life is here for you to be an example for someone out there. Make it good! Don’t fall back to the past. You can make this a great life no matter what. If our world is to get better over all. Someone has to make a change. If not you then who will? Bliss to you this glorious 2012.

Mercury Retrograde: Another Chance to Go Within

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Historically, Mercury Retrograde has been a time when people runaway from technology, communication and travel for many reasons. Lol but why?

What is Mercury Retrograde?:

This happens three to four times per year, when the planet Mercury slows down, and appears to stop (station) and move backward (retrograde). It’s an optical illusion, since there is forward movement, like speeding by a slow-moving train — as it recedes, it appears to go backward.

I saw this on a road trip, driving alongside a moving train going slower than my little white Subaru — it really does play tricks with your mind!

What are the Mercury Retrograde dates for 2012?:

March 12th to April 4th in Aries
July 14 to August 7 in Leo
November 6 to November 26 in Sagittarius, then Scorpio
What happens?:

Mercury is the messenger, and in this time, legend has it that mail vanishes en route. Some people find that their computers go on the fritz or phone lines go down. If you’re at all jittery about it, go ahead and back up your important files. That’s always a good idea anyway, right?
A Time-Out:

Mercury retrograde gives us time to catch up with ourselves, and reflect. Something from the past returns in a different form. People, ideas or buried insights that are keys to moving forward, float to the surface. Often it’s felt as a slowed down, contemplative time, and depending on the sign, a chance to go over old ground again, to claim what you missed the first time.
Err on Side of Caution:

There’s a long-held belief that it’s best to avoid making set plans during the Mercury Retrograde. This means holding off on signing contracts, and forming partnerships and alliances. What gets put in writing at this time may turn out to need serious revising after Mercury goes direct. But since tying up loose ends is the domain of retrograde, this type of finalization might fly.
Can you repeat that?:

In our relationships, sometimes we gloss over things that pushed buttons at the time, but which we let slide. What seemed not worth the trouble may reveal itself as a major issue in need of our attention. The Mercury retrograde is a time for review, when the underlying patterns come to light.
Back to the Drawing Board:

Some dreams and goals get lost in the hectic rushing around of daily life. The Mercury Retrograde period can be a rich time of reflection on those longings. This makes it a time for the soul to ponder its destiny. You might look over old journals, review your creative work, muse on serendipities of the past that have pointed you toward your spirit’s calling. It can make the retrograde period a time of solidifying a sense of your personal story and where you’re headed.
What does it mean in each different sign?:

The Mercury retrograde is shaped by the sign through which it is cast. For example, a Mercury retrograde in Cancer turns the mind toward things like family, home and the invisible emotional bonds that connect us. On the other hand, a Mercury retrograde in Aquarius gives it a different spin, with a review of group dynamics, the larger human community, all from a detached perspective.
Making the Most of Mercury Retrograde:

Astrology is a tool that can make you aware of patterns, like those that come during a Mercury retrograde. Just observe and see what happens, and be open to the past returning for review. If it’s coming back, there’s likely something more to learn or release from it. You don’t have to retreat to the zen monastery, but a little solitude and quiet reflection never hurt anybody.

 

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The Powerful Law of 2: Intention & LOA!

The Law of intention blended with the law of attraction is one ingredient you may not of tried before. The use of both laws together makes a huge difference in getting what you want, possibly half the time in most cases.

Did you know Law of Attraction is already working in your life? Don’t believe that? You do believe in gravity and the wind, yes? You can’t see them but you do experience their effects.

The Law of Attraction is just the same.

You don’t really ‘see’ gravity or the wind, but you, like me, know those two things exist. The Law of Attraction is working 24×7, every day of the year, constantly attracting to you good things in your life or not so good things. The Law of Attraction affects everything, whether you believe it or not.

My question to ‘you’ is: “Are you really working the law of attraction with full intention?” If not yet, you will very soon. What are your top 3 desires? Keep this question and the answers in mind, better yet jot them down.

The key to intention is to be informed first on how to do something then you can intend on choosing to do differently than you have before. Here are some characteristics of people who are in alignment with the power of intention:

These people never rely on luck. They decide to do something, then they make it happen.

They never think about what cannot happen. Instead, they focus on what will happen.

They focus their thoughts on only what they want.

Sound familiar? If not soon this will be a second language to you!

You don’t have to believe in the gravity to see it work. The law of gravity is always working. Drop a pen on the ground and you will have an instant reference point that gravity is real. The belief you had about it at first, will be good for a few seconds then you will watch the pen fall on the ground at the same speed no matter how many times you drop it on the ground. A law is made one because it always works in a calculated way. The law is something you can put your money on. You can place a bet on it. It is always working. The law of attraction is a sure thing just as the law of gravity is.

Become aware of, and choose carefully, the things you give your attention to. Where you place your attention is where your life will grow.

You may not want to hear this, but everything you have (or don’t have) has been attracted or repelled into or from your life by YOU.

The Law of intention blended with the law of attraction is one ingredient you may not of tried before. The use of both laws together makes a big difference in how well the your wants manifest. The difference is simple. You are naturally using the law of attraction. The question is not: “How can I get the law of attraction to work” but “How can I get the law of attraction to fulfill my desires?” Intention that is it! Make it deliberate. It will happen!

What were your top 3 desires again? They might be closer than you think… Is is important to realize that you are already manifesting, and doing a very good job of it. Once you have come to terms with that realization, then the next step is to adjust your thinking.

As your thinking begins to transform, so will the possibilities of you achieving your goals. The law of attraction with intention begins with the right “mindset”. Letting go of those conflicting thoughts and cultivating new positive ones, about you and your place in the universe is where it all starts.

A simple way to begin this process is to become aware of your what you are holding in your mind, in other words what are your thoughts? Begin to pay attention to what you are thinking about the internal things you are saying. When those words and thoughts become negative, shift your thoughts to focus on positive vibrations instead.

If that is difficult to do, find something to distract you, it could be something as simple as starting a puzzle or getting into a hobby. You could read some affirmations, quotes or a book that reminds you of positive things.

Once you get into the routine of ignoring the negative thoughts, it will become easier to replace them with positive ones.

Here are the characteristics of people who are connected with the Law of Intention:

These people expect success!

They never rely on luck.

They Decide to do something, then do it.

The focus is on what will happen.

Thoughts are on only positive goals.

They helps others become great.

Making Your Marriage More Passionate

Making Your Marriage More Passionate

When you were courting, all you could think about was how exciting and romantic it was to be together. Back then, you couldn’t do enough to please each other. As time passed, you got so accustomed to married life that you stopped making special efforts for each other. There were always so many responsibilities and details to take care of, that who could think about romance? Maybe you’ve been missing those blissful feelings — and you sense that your partner misses them too. Here are a few ways to put more romance back into your marriage.

Pay attention to your appearance

There’s a saying: Beauty’s only skin deep, but ugliness goes right through to the bone. Too often, people who’ve been married for years no longer feel the need to go through the effort of looking good for their partner.

If your wife doesn’t enjoy seeing you lounging around the house in your underwear, or if your husband is bothered by seeing you in worn out slippers and an old bathrobe, don’t ignore it. Doing that is a lot like saying: “We’re married. Therefore, I don’t have to bother putting on any kind of show. You’re always going to be there, so I don’t have to worry about pleasing you.” After you become indifferent to your appearance, your spouse may have a hard time seeing you in a romantic and exciting way.

There’s nothing wrong with being comfortable around the house. But do yourself, your spouse, and your marriage a favor by paying attention to your dress and personal hygiene. Show your husband or wife that you care by taking the time to look, feel, and smell good.

Use words of love

Saying the words “I love you” is always a good idea — as long as they’re said sincerely. Everyone appreciates being told how much they’re loved and cherished.

Here are some ways to expand that simple three-word phrase:

Share your hopes, dreams, and secret thoughts. There are some things that you can only communicate through words. And few things make your partner feel closer to you than letting her in on your most private thoughts and visions.

When your goal is to create more closeness in your marriage, you want to share only thoughts and emotions that are likely to make your partner feel loved and wanted. Save any worries that are likely to generate anger or tears for another time.

Tell your partner often how much you love being married to her. Then, talk about the qualities you enjoy most. Is it her terrific sense of humor? The way he greets you at the door when you come home from work? Married couples often spend a lot of time complaining about one another’s faults and shortcomings. If you want to stir up the romantic fires in your relationship, try letting her know what she does that pleases you most.

Use a gentle touch

The way people touch each other communicates different feelings and provokes different sensations. Wives often complain that their husbands touch them only when they want sex. Women seem to like more hand holding, kissing, and gentle physical closeness than men. So, guys, don’t wait for bedtime to touch and fondle your wife. Make it part of the way you communicate every day.

The absence of affectionate touching doesn’t always mean that there’s a problem in the marriage. However, a certain amount of gentle, non-sexual touching enhances closeness and heightens the sense of romance between the partners. This touching can take many forms, like caressing your partner’s face, putting an arm around her back, or stroking his hair.

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Make time to be alone together

When husbands and wives don’t spend enough time alone, they are bound to grow apart. And when a couple already has problems, they often distance themselves from one another by using kids, friends, family members — even groups of strangers — as buffers.

Couples with young children need to make a special effort to find time to be by themselves. Sure, it’s not always easy to find a babysitter. It often seems easier to drag the kids along to wherever you’re going. That may be conducive to a rich family life, but you need to balance that with time for the two of you.

Make it your business to find at least a few hours each week for the two of you to be alone together. Go for a walk, movie, or ballgame. Meet for lunch. Take a cooking class together. Try to get away overnight as often as possible.

Simply logging in time together won’t make your relationship more romantic. What you need to do is to spend uninterrupted time sharing thoughts, ideas, and activities in a way that gives you pleasure and draws you closer as a couple.

Play and laugh together

When the routines of day-to-day life begin to take over, you may forget that playing together is as important as working together. Few things help you appreciate the good things in life — and in your marriage — than adding a touch of child-like playfulness.

Watch the way children play; the way they seem to take pleasure from each moment. Adults often let themselves get so loaded down with pressures and responsibilities that they forget how important it is to have fun.

Think of play as any activity that you enjoy together. It may be taking a drive in the country, going to the zoo, or taking up ballroom dancing. Or stay home, order in a pizza, and rent a couple of videos. Whatever makes the two of you smile and feel light-hearted.

Different kinds of playfulness are appropriate at different times. For example, some play involves the kind of intimate touching most couples would only do behind closed doors — though there are some couples who enjoy fooling around with each other in public. There are also very public kinds of playfulness, like spending time at an amusement park or dressing up for a costume party. Almost anything is fair game if you both find it pleasurable.

Revisit your shared history

Is there a special spot where you used to spend time when you were courting? A certain restaurant near your first apartment where the two of always had Sunday brunch? How long has it been since you’ve been back to those places?

Return to the locations that have special meaning to you — on a regular basis, if possible. It may not be practical for you to go back to the exotic island where you spent your honeymoon, but what about revisiting that park where you used to stroll together hand in hand, or that beach where you spent a week the summer you first met? Revisiting places that are special to you will help keep the romance alive in your marriage.

Continue to seek out new romantic places and rituals, and add them to the ones you already have.

Your shared history as a couple is ongoing. The special experiences and meaningful rituals that you create over the course of your marriage help you have a richer and more romantic life together.

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Hey Are You In the Vortex?

The Vortex of Manifestation

What a great lecture on The Law of Attraction. The first time viewed this video. I was inspired by the way the speaker spoke alone. Not only her speech but she spoke about the same lessons I learned from other teachers in my life. The only difference was the words used to convey the message about our unlimited potential. As the days pass there will be more on this. This video good. Take a look and tell us what do you think of it? Peace, Love and Bliss!

Manifestation Tip: Empower Your Affirmations with Feeling

How are you feeling about your life?

Are you affirming abundance, but believe you have to struggle to make ends meet? Do you affirm what you desire, but expect obstacles in your path? Do you want appreciation, but anticipate criticism? When you state an affirmation, it’s the feeling behind it that counts.

The emotions you feel are what power your affirmations, whether you’re affirming what you want, or unconsciously affirming what you don’t want. When you mutter “I can’t afford a new car,” you’re affirming that circumstance. And the emotion that associates with the declaration energizes it. Therefore, you won’t be able to afford a new car.

English: Managing emotions - Identifying feelings

Why do you think you have to believe that your goal can happen? Belief is an emotion. Expectation is an emotion. Identification is an emotion. Fear is an emotion. Whatever you’re feeling about the object of your affirmation is what will manifest in your life.

Emotion is simply energy, good, bad or indifferent. The subconscious follows to where you’re sending your power, and gives you what you’re focusing on. Whatever is your dominant thought about the issue wins the race. Your feeling gets the attention of the subconscious.

If you’ve been affirming something in particular, but feeling its opposite as you affirm, you will manifest the feeling. I’ve done affirmations for abundance, but since I couldn’t see how it could happen, I still felt financially restricted. What happened? Every time? The prosperity I did have faded away. I got to experience the physical reality of my fear.

Maybe you’re confident while you say your affirmations, but later you undo all your good work. If you make statements afterwards that contradict your affirmation and reinforce your present beliefs or circumstances, you’ll manifest that. All of your thoughts, words and feelings about it have to be consistent. It’s like a balance scale with two pans. Your old beliefs are on one side, and your new ones are on the other. Until your new beliefs constantly outweigh your old ones, they won’t manifest to the degree you want.

You don’t have to know how your affirmation is going to manifest. You simply have to feel the emotion of having your desire. Stir up the feeling. There’s an old adage, “Fake it until you make it.” You won’t see the reality of your desire until you can feel it. If you have to pretend, do so. You may not know how it can happen, but the Universe and your creative mind know how.

When you affirm, remember that you’re affirming the truth. You’re not changing the Universe’s mind about this issue, you’re changing your mind about it. The Universe is always offering you everything you could possibly want. You don’t have to believe it yet, but recognize that the Universe believes it for you.

Think of the result from the Universe’s point of view. The Universe knows your goal is possible and available for you. By identifying with the perspective of the Universe, you can channel that feeling through your affirmation. Whenever you think about the issue during the day, remind yourself that the Universe is taking care of it. Your trust in the Power of the Universe will energize your affirmation, and you’ll experience it in Divine time.

Affirmations Revisited With Joy!

Affirmations are more than a sentence. They are written for the purpose of reaffirming something a person wants to do or remember to do. Affirmations can be used for many things as it relates to the law of attraction they should be used to keep you in line with that which you say you want to attract more of into your life. Always phrase affirmations in terms of what you want rather than what you do not want. The brain cannot evaluate ‘not happy’ without thinking of being unhappy. You get reminded of the words you say whether you adding not or do not want to them. It is important to know what type of intelligence we are dealing with when we speak about the unlimited power within us and the matching stream vibration of unlimited power all around us.

 

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Affirmations can be repeated as many times a day. Pick affirmations that make you feel good. What works for you may not work for another. That is only natural. It is all personal preference. Studies have shown that people who repeat positive words to themselves daily boost their self image to themselves and the world at large. Affirmations are the key to unlocking the motivation that one may lack from minute to minute. It is not enough to say an affirmation if you are not feeling what you are saying. To continue the constant cycle of like attracts like decide what type of energy you want to see more of in your life, then pick your affirmations accordingly. Remember, energy follows thought.

 

 

Here is an exercise to discover what type of affirmations to us: Look at the two affirmations below. Which one will attract more of what you want, and which one will attract more of what you do not want? That is what you have to ask before using an affirmation. OK now for the exercise!

 

 

“People do not listen to me.” or

 

“Everyone enjoys listening to what I have to say.”

 

 

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Next you will see how to turn your list of wants into affirmations. Make sure you are thinking of your personal wants so you can create your own list too.

 

 

Keep the following points in mind when crafting your affirmations

 

1) Phrase your affirmations in the present tense. Write them as if you are enjoying them right now.

 

For example: If your goal is to attract more love, a suitable affirmation might be: ‘I am surrounded with more and more love everyday. I feel love all around me’.

 

 

What are your dreams and desires again? Your affirmations should reflect what you want more of in your life.

 

 

Here are some examples of a goal and the affirmation crafted specifically for affirming …

 

 

1) Goal: abundance in all areas of my life

 

Affirmation: I am abundant in all areas of my life

 

2) Goal: stability

 

Affirmation: I am stable in all areas of my life

 

3) Goal: I want to win

 

Affirmation: I am a winner!

 

4) Goal: I want good health

 

Affirmation: I have ideal health

 

5) Goal: a husband and 3 beautiful children

 

Affirmation: I am enjoying my loving husband and children

 

 

6) Goal: to travel the world

 

Affirmation: I am joyfully traveling the world anytime I choose to

 

 

7) Goal: as a successful business executive

 

Affirmation: I am a successful business executive now

 

 

8) Goal: a healthy relationship with my family

 

Affirmation: My family relationships are happy and healthy

 

 

 

This may seem like a challenging exercise to some, but with practice you will be constructing your personal list affirmations in no time. The key to writing affirmations is to write with intention. Feel the positive vibration of being revolutionary in your life! Taking action is awesome!

 

 

More affirmations:

 

* I am living in the home of my dreams

* I have unlimited resources now

* I am completely healthy

* I am enjoying my ideal relationship

* I have the perfect career now

* I am financially independent

 

 

To attract this and more, write some affirmations and simply allow the universe to respond to your most desired thoughts. Saying affirmations out loud has been known to be preferred by some. However, saying affirmations out loud has nowhere near the same impact as repeatedly hearing the same words inside your mind.

 

 

So where do you place your affirmations now? Place them wherever you will be reminded of them.

 

 

Areas to place your affirmations:

 

 

1. mirrors

2. everywhere you frequently pass

3. car dash board

4. pocket

5. cell phone

6. desk

7. head board

8. wall(s)

9. refrigerator

10.notepad

 

 

Only when you choose have the Resolve and Determination to lead a Happier and more Positive life, will you be Naturally inclined to use a Healing Process of Positive Affirmations. You cannot “force” yourself to be Happy. However, you CAN choose to be Joyful at anytime. When you make this Choice, you can Reinforce and Invigorate the process with living and eating balanced. Healing and Positive Affirmations look good on you. Remember~ Affirm the peace within you, Visualize Luminous Images all day and Feel Sparkling Rays of Strength and Courage within and surrounding your Being! You can do it!

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