Every painful thing is an invitation to healing. An opportunity for learning how to L ♥ V E

So many people seem so confused about human interaction, emotions, and especially love. I often feel like I am from another planet. And I ’m watching people play the game of the lie, calling it “love, ”destroying each other, blaming each other for being destroyed, and then moving on to the next victim.

It is a wonder anyone is still standing! So many people seem to buzz from one person to the next within seconds of something not fitting into some preconceived notion of an ideal mate, rarely stopping to consider their own part in the interaction, or of how they created just the thing which they now see. So much blaming, not enough owning up to oneself.

Or unwillingness to look at the “eye of the beholder. ”Not enough willingness to get our hands dirty, to do the work. We hope that somehow if we play the numbers game long enough we will fall —quite by accident or simply by being deserving —into a relationship in which we find everything we ever dreamed of. And hope it will then just be a matter of sitting back and relaxing into the sunset.

Wake up, people —LOVE TAKES WORK! In fact, a good definition of real love might be that it is the opposite of laziness. You cannot expect to find genuine love which does not ask you to rise to the occasion and be everything of which you are capable (and to extend yourself *way* beyond what you thought your self capable). This is absolutely fundamental to real love.

As opposed to a capitalist game (tempting scenario to believe in, as we are immersed in capitalism) which is more like: I go shopping, I buy (using my lifetime of accumulated assets to secure the purchase) a mate (whose label looks good, whose consumer reports are good), and then I simply enjoy him/her when convenient or as needed, until I use him/her up or I realize the label was inaccurate, and then buy another (hopefully better) model. Can anyone see there is a problem here? People are not products, duh!

Not only are people not products, but they defy description, labels, etc. They are magical. They change with the way you look at them. They grow bigger or smaller depending on how you move. They show different facets under different light. They are simultaneously solid, ethereal, metaphysical, chemical, crystalline, animal, dream, intellect, seas of emotion, histories, tangles, light, particles, waves, and more. Each one of us is more vast and complicated than anything we ’d ever read about in all the books ever written. You know this in your heart. So why not behave accordingly? Why not live the truth of this?

LOVE IS A BIG FAT WAKE-UP CALL! It shines a blazing light upon all the places where you are messed up. To the person who is asleep, this can be very painful. Even if you ’re awake, painful, too. Especially as it asks us to open our eyes and *really* look at ourselves, and then love ourselves most of all. And we ’ve all been trained with big sticks and subtle jibes that we are not very lovable. That who we are does not really matter. Only what we appear to be. So we stop looking at the parts of ourselves which aren ’t “fit for consumption.

”We alienate these parts and hope they will go away. That no one will notice. And believe that if the world *really* knew us, it would find us lacking. Messy. Untamed. Because the world is full of people who are as hurt and unloved and ashamed and confused and asleep as we all are.

If love is a language, we humans are only just learning to spell. If you are ready to learn to love, then EVERY PAINFUL THING IS AN INVITATION TO HEALING. AN OPPORTUNITY FOR LEARNING HOW TO LOVE. And while we may find a relationship which makes us feel “comfortable ”or is “exciting ”(but which leaves us ultimately feeling empty, give it a week, a month, or 20 years), this is not what the deepest parts of us long for. We desire true love —that thing which heals all the places we are broken and then allows us to be every thing we dream that we are. We Are!

Another good definition of love might be that it is the opposite of fear (or love is letting go of fear, to use a clich é).

If you are afraid of someone else ’s dark side, or if your own dark side (translation: baggage), or indeed deny that you/they have any, it will be virtually impossible for you to truly love someone —the real them/you. Everyone has baggage. Even if you grew up in the Brady Bunch and never left the set, you will have had experiences which hurt you, and scars and bizarre coping methods to show for it. You cannot have lived without being hurt by others, institutions, yourself, the nature of existence, the reality of loss/death/impermanence.

The size and quantity of your baggage may even be proportional to the extent to which you allowed yourself to be alive. And to have been engaged in truly exploring what it means to be a living Being.

If you played it safe to the point of being able to control all of the variables in your environment to eliminate pain, then *maybe* you escaped the inevitable scuffed knee or broken bone. But life has a way of seeking you out even though you might be hiding from it. So sooner or later, baggage will accumulate. Perhaps you have *way* more than you care to examine.

Of course, what people probably mean by this phrase “no baggage ”means, how well do you keep it hidden? Or how good at hiding it are your various addictions (to caffeine or alcohol or Prozac, to TV, to busy-ness/business, to self-help books, to endless seeking and grasping, denial, etc.). Or perhaps, what kind of a man/woman are you at dealing with it? The nature of your character. Can you carry it or not?

And we so much want to judge a man by how he walks. Heaven forbid we were to walk a mile in his shoes. We ’d certainly crumble. LOVE IS ABOUT COMPASSION. It sees the noble struggle in every person walking. There are hidden parts in all of us, which —if you ’d only care to look —explain every shade of lameness.

Love is all around us, but we must have courage and relearn skills which have been kicked out of us, to be able to access the powers love gives to us.

Though you may have plenty of chemistry with another person, or even benefit greatly from the gifts which they bring you, love is not about taking all you can get. Or using another person to fill a hole in yourself. Love is about being everything you were born to be (loving yourself) and putting that outside of yourself (giving the gift), sharing it with others. LOVE IS BEING FREE TO GIVE, BECAUSE YOU KNOW YOURSELF TO BE AN OVERFLOWING AND BOTTOMLESS SOURCE WHICH CANNOT BE DEPLETED BY THE GIVING.

Love is also about being able to hold all the broken parts of another person in a space of safety. Saying through words and deeds that you love them —ALL of them —(including things which are ugly or frightened or hurting). LOVE DOES NOT WALK AWAY OR CLOSE THE DOOR. Love does not punish or abandon another for the sake of self or grasping of the ego. For the short-term gain. Love is not a garnish for our pride. Or a prize for our achievements. Or a protector which keeps us from looking at ourselves or the realities of our existence on earth.

Love does not ask another person to do more than it is prepared to do itself. Love has compassion for the pain of another. Love is the intention and the will behind offering support. It shows up when it doesn ’t want to. Most of all when it does not want to. (Commitment phobics need not apply). It sticks with things/people even when it ’s rough. It struggles to break through the bullshit. It has faith that there is a good thing behind the bullshit. And suspends its disbelief in the face of appearances to the contrary. LOVE KNOWS AND UNDERSTANDS THAT ULTIMATELY, LOVE IS THE ONLY THING THAT IS REAL.

Love is not a game of commodities where we buy and sell our good traits, hide or cut off our bad parts. LOVE IS ABOUT MEETING ANOTHER PERSON EXACTLY WHERE THEY ARE, SEEING THEM IN ALL THEIR IMPERFECTION, AND LOVING THEM ANYWAY. Even loving those imperfections more than the shining parts sometimes, because they are often sacred wounds. Or battle scars which show the immense courage of having taken on the world, and the willingness to keep on walking even though there is fear and hurting around every corner.

LOVE IS LEARNING TO FORGIVE A HUNDRED TIMES, YET KNOWING ULTIMATELY THERE IS NOTHING TO FORGIVE, only the illusion of the need to do so (for the smaller parts of ourselves).

Let ’s all give each other a break! This life is hard. We all struggle. WE ARE ALL LEARNING. We all make a hundred mistakes a day through our actions and inactions. We are all struggling to do the best we can against our own personal demons and despite our fears and hurting parts.

We can pretend (to ourselves and to others) that we are above it all, that we have all the answers and look only for someone who agrees with us and can follow our rules, no matter how rigid and imprisoning they may be. But this is narcissism. It takes courage to bridge the gap between two worlds —or the gap between any two things. To stand in two worlds simultaneously and not drown takes faith. Takes everything you have to give in this world. Worth everything you have, too.

Love is a lot of work. If you aren ’t prepared to do the work, then you will be sure to attract similar people (and, I assume, have ultimately empty and unfulfilling relationships with them). Or, if you somehow stumble upon someone willing to do the work, you most surely will not recognize them. So prepare yourselves.

This is about being everything you came here to be. It isn ’t about winning the lottery and never having to work another day.

It is no small thing, this love thing.

I feel like I ’m from another planet with this. But my heart is my guide, and I trust it more than any vast contingent of earth people yelling to the contrary. Seeking contact with similar believers. Perhaps our words may sustain our hope. Perhaps I have touched something in you?

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Co-Creation is Continuous: The first thing to understand

The first thing to understand about Building more of anything in our lives is: WE are a part of the process of creating our reality all of the time. What’s next?

Watch this video for deeper clarity about how we co-create. Deep stuff~ I  just enjoy life!

Poetry for the Soul~

Dream & Visualize your prize, allow your light to grow…witness the glow- ing..there is nothing to fear..if you know what you are..never let that image go..The universe is your home. The Creators lifeforce is in you…you are all knowing..all powerful..everywhere all the time.. never second guess that.. create your paradise at will divine one..focus and be still..vibrate high-ER..celebrate this life fully…and know that…Harmony shall reign supreme no matter what it looks like right now..its all an illusion… Flow…with it…Seek Peace…Return to Bliss as much as you can…give thanks for the power to choose..AHhhh… ~DivineBiss~ ♥ Just say Yesss! OMM

Serendipity ( a “happy accident” or “pleasant surprise”; specifically, the accident of finding something good or useful without looking for it)

When we are born it begins a journey.  Along the way on this long winding path we eventually end up seeking many things. One of which is love.  In the beginning, it is from our Mother & Father, then our family, community and so on. Eventually, assuming everything goes right, we begin to find we have a void within us, which other forms of love can’t seem to fill.

We have all known loneliness, a dark emptiness within our soul which seems to stretch for an eternity. We feel like we are apart of nothing, just drifting aimlessly upon the sea of humanity with no destination, nor land in sight. At times despair is like our wet clothing as we shiver cold and alone in the darkness. To distract ourselves we dream of “The One” and how they will lift our spirits and take away the emptiness, this absence of life.

For some, eventually someone comes along and brings light to this darkness. But as humans, sometimes we are by this time so starved to be “touched” that we unknowing make compromises which, if we were rational we would not make. Thus the saying. “Blinded by Love “.  Because, of these compromises, we may never find our true predestined love.

Many of you now, are not in a “Soulmate” relationship. The truth is you got tired of waiting and you settled for the best “offer” at the time. This was your choice, and now is your Karma.  But in your heart, in your soul, you know if someone is your Soulmate, for it goes beyond just love. It is a form of joining.

When you meet your, soul mate  this person will have an instantaneous effect on you.  A Soulmate is someone who makes your knees go weak and you want to catch your breath.  With but a single glance they lesson your burden and but a smile, warms your heart. You will feel a sense of connection affinity  with this person. They will touch you so deeply on so many levels, you will want to share your inner most secrets. For the first time in your life someone will make you feel like almost like divine.  Once you have met your soul mate for better or sometimes worse, your life will never be the same.

One of the things which makes this experience unique is the sense of a meaningful spiritual experience. You both feel like this is to be and that you’ve been together before in a past incarnation. Normally for some, it is several months, weeks or days before physical intimacy sex  occurs. But when you meet your soul mate something happens, the pull or drive to become physically intimate overwhelms many, and one finds it happening basically in the initial meeting.

There’s a sense of safety with this person. You knowingly let go of your defenses as an empathic like bond is formed. Unlike other relationships, in the past, there will be no game playing or hidden agendas which plagued you in the past.

Sometimes the best way to find something, is by not looking for it. With this in mind, you probably will meet your Soulmate when you’re not looking. Since life revels in making things difficult, you’ll probably meet them in the morning when your on the grave yard shift. For many it will be after a bad relationship or several bad relationships.

If you’re lucky you won’t have to wait until your 50 to meet your soul mate. But if you do. Well at least you’ll appreciate it’s significance more, than someone in there twenties. You have had the benefit of experience, the perspective of age and the knowledge, such love is once in a life time.

The point here is***** “Serendipity”****, so forget about taking that “Singles” bus tour to the Circus. Sure you’ll meet a lot of nice people and perhaps you really should get out, but just be prepared to ..Well, meet some real clowns.

The universe is a funny place, don’t be surprised if your Soulmate is older or younger. Soulmate’s don’t care about age. How much older or younger ? From my observations, expect years like 7 to 20. In a true soul mate relationship it won’t matter, if anything it will make you stronger. Life is not neat, nor has it ever been. So why should it start now ?

There is something about the Passion you share with an soul mate. It goes beyond just ” body parts”. For a moment in time you two are the only ones who exist in the universe. Hearts beating in rhythm as your souls have intertwined themselves becoming one. Your personal energies meld and you feel the flame of creation move through you like a wave of the ocean on a hot summers day.

Soon you begin to lose track, of where you begin and your partner ends. From within the depths of your raw passionate union, your soul mate will know how and where to touch you. It will be different, intense and more gratifying than lovers of your past.

They will look into your eyes and you will feel your soul open wide. For some people, there is the “Rush”. All the love, all the lust, all the need will surge forth from your soul like captives from a prison. At this moment you will know what it means to get lost within someone’s eyes. You will experience a touch you have never felt before and your lust will rise to new levels. Often, in the case of true Soulmates, you can get so carried away you can actually hurt yourself. But in the end as you lay there, as the warm afterglow begins to fade, you will realize what just happened was not sex. “Sex, simply doesn’t feel this good.”

To put it simply, your soul mate will be able to make love to you in ways no one else will be able to match.

It is within our nature as human being to fuck things up. The very thing which makes Soulmate love so special, is the one thing which can bring it down. The simple fact is, the unparalelled love & passion is terrifying to many people.

We learned how to have relationships from our parents or primary giver. If your primary givers relationships were dysfunctional, then chances are so are yours. There are many people in this world who in relationships maintain an extreme amount of emotional control. They take pride in the fact that their partner is madly in love with them.

By being able to “wrap them around their finger” they feel safer. Thus, all their relationships become based on this pattern. Then one day their soul mate comes along and wham!. Quickly they discover the control over their heart and the relationship is gone. Now they must relate on a level playing field, and for many, they run.

For those of you who are runners let me tell you what you already know. It doesn’t work. You can move to the other side of the planet, marry someone else and fill up your spare time with some cause. But the simple truth is, your soul mate will be there in your soul. No matter how hard you try, no matter how busy you make yourself, everyday they will enter you thoughts. So then many try and fuck them out. But that doesn’t work either, for it becomes just sex and as you lay there afterwards you will feel empty and cheated.

A good measure of this is a simple test. After you have just made love to the person who you are using as a safe substitute, do you find yourself wanting to “get away” from them? A kind of “Okay, I got off..now get away from me feeling”? (LOL!) This is assuming that you can still get off. In some cases your orgasms are just barely, if you’re lucky. When you were with your soul mate, didn’t you feel the need to remain close, to pull each other tightly and melt into each other? That’s the difference….and one which is very hard to hide from yourself.

If you run, then you’ve made the conscious choice to doom yourself and the other person to be haunted for the rest of your life. Sure, you may eventually fall in love with someone who fits your preconceived image or expectation (cute, rich or successful) of what your partner should be. But as time moves on…you never forget, you always wonder and then you eventually regret. I have a saying:

The Soulmate relationship is worth putting up a fight, but there comes a time when you have done all that you can do and you can do no more. At some point, the one who runs has to choose to stop and come to their senses. Life is sadly cruel, just as it is grand.

It is like having your tender soul ripped from your body. You feel lost, abandoned and betrayed. There is a sense of panic which permeates your very being and personal existence. You find yourself saying, “never again”. You did something you had never done before, you willingly let another in….all the way.

Eventually, after the shock, the depression comes, then the anger and then you just want it all to end. You wish you could just stop feeling…but you can’t. And no matter how much you drink, smoke or eat, you can’t make the pain go away. Yes, regular love hurts too..and badly. But when you lose your soul mate, no matter how enlightened, wise or talented, in both will and spirit you are it is devastating.

Many of us sadly, fail to recover and we truly never “Love” again. Those who are really weak, try to kill themselves. Be it with a car speeding on a wet winding road after drinking, or “J” walking on 42nd street, to just taking one too many pills. The end result is the same if we succeed, suicide is suicide whether you leave a note or not.

In the end, we don’t even want to see the person, because that just tares open the wound over and over. Right or wrong, that’s just the way it is. Eventually, you go on with your life and you stop hating them because like you they will never forget either.

Every now and then life gives us a happy ending. Sometimes, after trying to get their soul mate out of their minds, the “runner” comes to realize what they had lost. A few are wise enough to do whatever it takes to correct the situation and get back into their Soulmates arms. Hopefully, not enough time has gone by so that the situation is salvagable. But oftentimes it’s not. All I can say is TRY. With Soulmates there is NO pride, and there CAN be forgiveness. We are destined to meet our Soulmate, what you do after that is “your” choice.

As I walk my chosen path I say to those …follow me

You Have The Power!

You have the power to choose…Consciousness is All there is~ we are Always One with all…nothing or no one is ever against us ~ we are here to learn~ we are indeed connected to All~ everything serves to further~ all situations/people/ challenges come into ones life to give the perfect opportunity to remember and nourish the peace that we are by nature:-) ~ Allow me remind you of who you are and are not…At Bliss Returned Life Coaching…Its about Personal Accountability~ Transformation ~ Empowerment ~ Relax ~ Rejuvenate~ Just SAY yes ~

Reblog: I Love Having The Ability To Do Readings

Today i am thankful for the ability to see what lies beneath the surface. I’m speaking about readings specifically. What readings? The type of readings that are done with shells, coins, cards and numbers. From my experience on the earth, its been 34 years now (this incarnation) anyway. My person wanted to know the truth in life ever since i can remember. Even when i did not know the questions to ask when i was a little girl. I came to my conclusions about what i felt was right or wrong from a religious perspective. I had a strong impression of divine truth when i was little as well to the point where- I told my family that certain things i was taught in school was wrong and i knew it was not right. Historical things and the list goes on. Fact is i knew better. I rebelled as a result, but not in a way where i went to jail or hated anyone for what they taught. I was just set on doing my thing and fulfilling my mission on earth.

After i got the fun lesson about energy and how it moves through thoughts and people in general plus it makes up the world. I learned that thoughts are often not ours, because thoughts are energy we must be mindful of thoughts and energies that come to us. Somethings are not ours and therefore are not for us to move on. Instead we are to ignore hundreds of thoughts and energy that don’t match our vibration daily. Once i learned about the transference of thoughts and how strong they can be to the point that a person will think the thought is there’s i knew i needed to know how to help me and others with blocking or allowing what belongs to them. Soon after reading a couple books and hearing from my ancestors…  I asked the creator to allow me to SEE. That way i would not have to go through the lessons in my life blindfolded again. Following illusions and the like was not a pat of my game plan in this life.

That request has given me so much in return. In fact i know i will not ever again walk the earth without using my tools. The gift of freewill was given to us all. I recognized that early on. I was going to use mine to the fullest too. Why not? So i got learned the hard way because i wanted to learn not merely through experiences but by walking the path. What a wonderful life it is. I thought i was walking alone when i chose to do that but that is an impossibility. More on that later.

More on The Ability to Divine: Through the ability of inner-sight I can see into life, people and situations if i need to, for personal decisions and for work purposes for my clients. People have all kinds of challenges this lifetime. We all do. Thankfully i can assist in removing obstructions, offer spiritual consulting, support and bring clarity to those who come my way. I am ever humble about the gifts i have. I don’t speak much about the work i do. I definitely do not give details out of my work and clients. ethics and morals are in line with what i do. This work is nothing to play with. I check my oracles before i take on a client as well. I only work with those the oracles show, i CAN help with their situations. I will refer clients to other people if i need to. Sometimes people have to prepare for their spiritual work before coming to me as well. Oracles show all of this. I have been open psychically since i came to this planet. I have been reading for over 5 years.

On top of that i have a group of ancestors (guides) whom i walk with that assist me with what i do. I call this my team also, They are a heavy part of Bliss Returned. We have several lifetimes of work to do. I know this sounds deep. Trust me it truly is.

I have always had a strong intuitive nature. My mind always wanted to know the details, the facts of life, not the ones that were JUST written in books. I wanted to understand  what ideas motivated a particular movement or decision. I had a deep connection to the hearts of people. I knew there was some divine element within each and ever one of us. It did not matter how a person acted or treated others’. I could see the hidden pieces. The pieces they did not want the world to see. That has been my gift.

As a result of intuitively ‘knowing’ I did not listen well growing up after a certain age..I craved answers about what was what.. My explanation of why i was not just going with the flow was that,  i felt as though i was not of this world. It was my destiny to question everything. I listened better when there was background information on why ‘we’ had to do things a certain way. This is one reason i am an ideal candidate for assisting gifted children. I was there. I can certainly feel the inner struggle they have with understanding and being understood too.

All throughout my life, spiritual connection to the unseen was so solidified that i had to learn to balance between the physical world and that which is in the inner planes too. I It was because i thought i knew life intuitively enough to where i could, make my way through listening to the inner feeling i had. Learning the art of spiritually reading has been  fun. It is one of the greatest tools I have ever received.

I am gifted with the hands to heal and the heart to counsult others in their lives. I have clients who are all ages. Some clients are twice my age. Age is no matter on the earthly plane to me, all that matters is your ability to do what you do. The universe (creator) has brought us all to someone for a reason. We all have lessons to learn, it does not matter whether we know this or not. The truth still remains. We all have a purpose too. No one is higher than another. We each have something great to learn from another. It does not matter whether we are a student or a teacher. All that is physical is an illusion anyway. I am here to work with whomever needs my assistance. I offer many options as well. I am well versed in what i do. What i do is not made up. I can show you and tell you too. I am not into showing off either. My energy and work with my ancestors, sometimes my clients ancestors too if i’m called to work with them for my client.

My day looks different each day. Yet i would choose no other way to do what i do but to help more people. It will be naturally as my heart is in the right place. We get what we give. I have so much love to share. I have a business i built to bring light and divine love back into the world a well. I have a lovely business partner and we are doing our thing in the field.

Check us out. www.blissreturned.com & www.blissreturned.wordpress.com

Holistic Dating / Take 1

I am sure we all can agree on one thing here before i get into this dating article. We all have so much in common, like most of us were taught to respond to life according to the advice of our parents or other adults or even siblings or perhaps an older friend. It is true-

We know there was no master manual on how to be a parent. How many of us have stories to share about that, no matter what some may think about their upbringing overall, the people in charge did the best they could with what they knew.

Parenting and teaching the youth is a HUGE job, however some adults gladly signed up to make a baby or babies. Some planned it and some did not. After they had their children they still had no manual on how to raise a child. They relied on their overall experiences to pass on what they knew to be right or wrong. The manual for dating was never written for anyone else either. Then again, you can say it was written, as new book is published on a regular basis. This is true regarding the manual on parenting as well. Books are written by people with personal experiences and perceptions usually.

Due to the level of  ‘manuals’ out there, one would wonder why there are issues in the dating world. With no commitment or long term plans between two people how can there be any issues at all? With all the knowledge men and women have available to them how can they not know what works or doesn’t work in the dating arena?

As funny as it sounds, that is the reality in the world. Two people with no connection to one another financially or any other…These persons have misunderstandings, large and small issues, the same story-

Dating can be a delightful journey if its done in a certain way. The problem is that we are all a bit different in what we prefer, want or say we need from our potential future mate. There are some details that run people off from dating. They even call the dating scene a mess. Not caring to deal with all the dating surprises and festivities- some people have chosen never to date or if they do it’s on a rare occasion.

For one thing, everyone is bringing with them the teachings of someone they grew up with , who had their own experiences. You have never met that person who influenced them, may never meet them either and the source of your dating interests dating knowledge or lack there of.. may have learned nothing about dating. So here is this person you are interested in who knows nothing about dating. Alright let’s just say the person you are interested in learned about dating, If they did, they have not met you yet, right..lol. That’s a favorite line these days.

It is funny, people do not think about the research they should do before stepping out into the dating scene. ONE to find out about what it is they want, and TWO to see what traits, characteristics, looks, values, etc…they want in their potential future lover. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with dating without looking for love at all. It is fine. Casual is great. No pressure. But we will need a game plan at some point.

There are old school teachings that can assist us right now with relating to others’ in my opinion. I’m forever young. However, every year i still get older (age wise) anyway. In the time that it has taken me to get to the age i am now- I have seen life from a different perspective. Others’ single folks have too. Especially after embracing the two things i listed above. (Read# Points One and Two in CAPS)

We cannot expect to know what we are getting into if we do not do our homework and research. I mean if you only want a warm body in your bed then you can just jump right in to dating without any ground work and you will still have the same 50/50 chance of having success even in that fast  moving department. So with the chances being 50/50 for those who do not do the research before going out with someone for something as simple as dinner- how can we expect anything of quality at all from out interactions with anyone?

Mmmm I don’t know?

Yea i know.

Why should we take our time? Here is a reason. Lying (NOT TELLING THE TRUTH) tops the list on why dating can be perceived as a mess some folks care not to deal with.  Hey i feel you. After being told some untrue information repeatedly by a stream of people back to back,  there may be months, years or weeks between the multiple people doing the lying. Why even bother? Some say.

Who is doing the lying? Too many to name, apparently. From my research, lying in the midst of dating can come from either a man or woman. This has always been true. We all have a choice, some choose to tell a lie. Karma may not phase them either. And for some, they could care less about the returned energy of their actions. The real question is… Why lie at all? That’s the billion dollar question. Maybe these people just need healing. This is a part of the inner work that should be done before we look for a long term relationship.

I am grateful that I have knowledge of qi gong and the 5 organ profile system. I am ever thankful for the understanding that people are sick (unbalanced health wise) over all and do not even know it. Once i learned qi gong and the 5 organ system and how it plays a role in why people say they will do something, want to do things but lack the vitality to do them. Afterwards, i changed my dating tune completely. I know the signs to look for now. What signs am i looking for? Well i personally want to raise a family one day with a big strong man by my side. I want healthy children as well. For this to happen the man must be healthy (vital) too.

This is just an example of one thing one may have on their list of things they want in a potential mate. This potential mate has to start off as a date basically. Also, in my experience they should become a friend before the relationship comes. An elder once said this, if you and your mate ever break up, you will at least have a friend in them. The benefit of making a friend before getting into a relationship with someone benefits us all the way around. A friend is great to have in a mate, i find that balance naturally comes after a  friendship has been established with someone. After we have a friend, the possibilities are endless indeed.

There is so much to write on the subject of dating that i will continue this post in several parts. Summing up tonight’s post and what its about…Thus far, I have written about the importance of patience and friendship before making any possible regretful moves that we have not planned for ourselves. Waiting never hurt in the name of love. Why rush?

Thanks for reading this. Comments are welcome as always. <3~Bliss to you~

Sereda~  The Bliss Goddess

Activate Initiative!

Excuses, Regrets, Half-stepping is futile to being successful. LIFE is full of challenges and lessons. These constant pressures from our perceived hardships can only boost us up to a higher position in life, if we would stop fighting our destiny and go with the flow of the water. By allowing ourselves to fall down, we can get up then walk more readily than any other. Without failure, obstruction and stagnation we would most likely NOT take a step back to, or check what we should be doing differently. Everything in the would was created with a purpose. There are no accidents. There is no coincidences either. All things have a method, place and use. It does not matter whether we understand what something means now or not. One day all will become more clear for us. We are here to learn. Sometimes we need to go within to think about our options. However, other times we must take action along with some follow through as well. No matter which part of the lesson we have to work it from, in or out, we will learn a thing or two. We have to take initiative either way. We have a destiny path but we also have the right to choose as well.  Smile about all that you have gone through. Know that we all have a story to tell. We have to teach someone how to live without regret someday and why shouldn’t that blissful person be you? Choose to laugh with intention today. The history that we have had on earth is not who we are.  They were only lessons, equivilent to your studies in school. Whether they were perceived good or bad..It will be alright, i promise. Nothing stays the same forever and those people, places and memories were apart of our development for a great purpose~ ♥ Pack it up and get moving within or out! ~Bliss Returned! Activate LOVE!

Insight from~ Thich Nhat Hanh

"No mud, no lotus"

This body is not me. I am not limited by this body. I am life without boundaries. I have never been born, and I have never died. Look at the ocean and the sky filled with stars, manifestations from my wondrous true mind. Since before time, I have been free. Birth and death are only doors through which we pass, sacred thresholds on our journey. Birth and death are a game of hide- and seek. So laugh with me, hold my hand, let us say good-bye, say good-bye, to meet again soon. We meet today. We will meet again tomorrow. We will meet at the source every moment. We meet each other in all forms of life.

Thich Nhat Hanh

No Energy??? This Time You Can Change That.

Baoding Balls / Qi Gong-Kugeln

If you put energy into your body, energy can also go out to attract what you want and also actively do all the things you may want to do..But first you have to give your body what it needs. If you find  yourself saying one thing then do something else constantly then you may have energy problems. When you can’t pull yourself together to get to work, keep a scheduled appointment, follow through on a date or a meeting, there is a most definitely an energy problem present in you.

The thing is, you don’t have to live with a lack of energy, you can build and cultivate some from scratch lol..since energy is unlimited there is always plenty for everyone. How many times have you or someone you know dropped the ball on showing up for something that was preplanned? If this is you…please learn qi gong or tai qi, yoga or at least do something healthy for your life force in order to get the vital energy inside and around you and quick.  There’s no need to feel regretful or sorry. You can always improve. So if you want balance I’m here to tell you this is the remedy. Also be mindful of what you’re eating and drinking..if there’s no life in it your food or drinks how will you get the nutrients you need? ~ Energy is what I’m sending out today and LOVE LOVE LOVE ❤ smile, you’re beautiful~